Hard of Listening

My family has had to repeat a lot of things lately. They mumble something, I say, "Huh?" and then they say it all over again. Sometimes, I wonder if they do this on purpose, just to get my goat! My kids are teasing me about going deaf. I guess that's what I get for listening to rock and roll music full blast in my headphones as a teenager. It's payback time for me. (and a warning for the MP3 generation)

I'm not totally deaf, mind you. I can still hear whispered plottings behind my back. It was that way with my dad too. He didn't hear what I wanted him to hear, but sure he heard everything I didn't want him to hear!

All this fuss about my hearing, lately, has reminded me how important it is to listen. There are a lot of folks in this world who have a very fine set of ears -- and yet they don't listen! They're too busy talking: mouths wide open and ears closed shut!

I'd much rather be hard of hearing than hard of listening!

In case you're wondering, here are a few indicators that you just might be "Hard of Listening."

1. If you smile and nod, say "uh-huh", and have no idea what the other person just said.

2. If you are busy thinking of what you're going to say next when the other person is talking.

3. If you're picking apart the other person's words, so you can use them as ammunition to win an argument.

4. If you jump to conclusions about what the other person is saying before he/she says it.

5. If you finish the other person's sentences.

6. If you say what you have to say, and then leave without pausing for the response. (One fellow said, "My wife and I had words this morning. She said all of hers, but I didn't get a chance to say any of mine!" Of course, maybe he was better off for it in the long run.)

7. If you are unwilling to consider another perspective besides your own.

8. If you think there are only two sides to the argument: Your side, and the wrong side.

9. If you impute evil motives behind the other persons words and actions. "I know what you MEANT by that" (It's usually best to assume they meant well.)

10. If you always have to say the last word. And, as Forrest Gump stated "That's all I have to say about that!"

Comments

pastor-to-be? said…
Many also suffer from 'selective hearing/listening'. These people choose what they hear.

Even worse, a respected leader that pretends to listen/care and then disregards everything he/she heard.
hurt said…
Pastor-to-be,
If you do decide to become a pastor, please know that many in your flock will tell you confidential stuff. Please do not abuse your position by using this confidential info against those that had the courage to trust you. Nothing hurts as much as your religious leader betraying you.
Steve Uhthoff said…
Mark: I finally bit the bullet and went to a good friend who is an audiologist (hearing Aid specialist). He checked me out and I found out why it is that I always have to walk to the back of the sanctuary to here a little old ladies prayer request during Bible Study. I have an impairment in the upper ranges of sound, right about where most ladies voices are.

Most likely the result of all of yhe loud carpenter shop equipment from my boat building days.

So, I bit the bullet anhd am now wearing a pair of very high tech hearing aids. Boy, I had forgotten how noisy this world really is. It's amazing what I hear once again.

I'm glad I did it. I didn't realize how much I was missing. So is my congregation.

God Bless: Steve
Anonymous said…
Steve,

Now that you can hear, make sure you listen!

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