Friday, June 17, 2011

Build a Bridge and Get Over It

Nobody likes to be criticized -- but a lot of people can dish it out. Some folks seem to have a natural talent for fault finding.
With all this criticism flying around, sooner or later you are going to get clobbered!

What is the healthy way to deal with criticism when it comes?

1. Consider the source. Has this person earned the right to speak into your life? Pay attention to criticism from those whose opinion you respect. Don't worry too much about "blab-a-holics" who can't tell when to turn off the spout.

2. Take the kernel of truth and discard the shell. You wouldn't think of swallowing a whole walnut and you shouldn't swallow a whole criticism either. Almost every criticism has a nugget of truth in it. Receive the truth as a gift, and get rid of the rest. If you can learn to do this, you will become a better person.

3. Don't throw criticisms back. Hurling back negative remarks will only make matters worse. Refuse to waste your breath by arguing with a critic. He's not going to listen to reason anyway. When the darts start flying, the best thing to do is duck!

4. Realize that everybody is criticized sometimes. We all have faults and hang ups. You can't fool anybody by pretending to be perfect.

Don't take it too personally, then, when someone points his guns at you. Instead, think of how many times you have made critical remarks about others.

If you accomplish anything in life, you will be criticized. It's just a fact of life. That's why it pays to have the heart of a lamb, with the skin of a rhinoceros.

When someone says something awful and hurtful -- Here's my advice: Build a bridge and get over it!

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