We either just "go" through life or we can grow through it.
The difference between going and growing is the big "R" -- Reflection!
Life is not so much about what happens to us as what happens in and from us.
When we take the time to reflect upon our experiences, we learn important lessons from them.
Failing to glean truth from circumstances, leads to a long rough journey of difficult consequences. going from bump to bump with a few ditches between.
Reflection brings wisdom and understanding. Why just suffer through difficult experiences, when we can gain something from them? Why waste mistakes?
"Experience is not what happens to you," said Adlous Huxley, "It is what you do with what happens to you."
My friend, Famous Dave Anderson, made the following observation:
"Failure is the hallmark of success. It can be the starting point of a new venture such as when a baby learns to walk, it has to fall down a lot to learn the new skill. Failure is also the mark of a success you've worked for. When a pole-vaulter finally misses in competition, it shows how far he's come. That failure becomes the starting point for his next effort, proving that failure is not final!"
I once heard John Maxwell say, "When you fall down, you might as well pick up something!"
I say, "Grow for it!"